Expectations vs. Reality: My Top Travel Letdowns and Surprises

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It's now become an internet trend: sharing “Instagram vs. reality” memes and photos, highlighting the fact that a lot of what we see online isn't exactly always “authentic.”

And it obviously goes beyond pretty photos on Instagram.

Expectation and reality can misalign in so many aspects of our lives, whether it's the clothing we're buying online, the recipe we're trying to replicate off Pinterest, or maybe even the people we're dating. And sometimes travel expectations just don’t match up to travel reality, either.

Angkor Wat sunrise crowd
Ever seen a beautiful photo of Angkor Wat at sunrise? This is what you see if you turn around!

Thanks in part to social networks like Instagram, we tend to build up destinations and travel experiences a lot in our minds. We see beautiful, postcard-perfect photos, and mentally insert ourselves into those stunning scenes of natural beauty, already picking out which photos we’ll plaster all over social media before we even leave home.

We thumb through guidebooks and lay out ambitious itineraries of the museums we’ll visit, the restaurants we’ll eat at, and the history we’ll soak up. We imagine spontaneous connections with the friendly locals, who we’ll surely remain friends with for life. And we’re already practicing the conversations we’ll have with others when we return, sharing with them every detail of the perfect adventure we’ve just had.

But, of course, this is never how it happens. Not every destination is postcard-perfect. Things never go completely according to plan. And even the most-visited and most-loved destinations can rub us the wrong way under the wrong conditions.

Pretty sure I spent more time looking for parking spaces in Yellowstone than actually looking at things like geysers.

Of course… the opposite can be true, too. There are destinations that take us by surprise, or exceed our expectations (be they low or not). We sometimes find ourselves surprised by the places we fall in love with.

So today, I thought I'd take a look back at some of the places I've visited in the last 10 years that didn't quite meet my expectations – either in a good way, or a bad one. Hopefully it can help prove that every travel experience is different – and that you can never really judge a destination by someone else's Instagram post.

Biggest travel surprises

There are some destinations in the world that you just kind of know you're going to love before you even get there. For me, these destinations have been places like New Zealand and Scotland and Norway; places that I dreamed about a long time before I visited, and places that met or exceeded my expectations on multiple trips

I'm not going to talk about those destinations here. Instead, I want to talk about places that I didn't really expect to fall in love with, and one or two that I actually expected to dislike before my first visit.

1. Barcelona, Spain

Sagrada Familia in Barcelona
The unfinished Sagrada Familia

I think the best example of my low(ish) expectations of a destination being blown out of the water is Barcelona. You might think that's silly, since this Spanish city is known for its incredible architecture and food. But it's also pretty well-known for its crowded touristy spots, and for petty crime like pickpocketing.

A lot of people told me I probably wouldn't like Barcelona, but I planned 5 days in the city anyway – after all, I always prefer to form my own opinions about places!

View of Barcelona from Park Guell
View of Barcelona from Park Guell

And guess what? I really, really enjoyed my time in Barcelona. I did my homework to pre-book some activities, timed things to avoid some of the worst tourist spots, read up on scams to avoid ahead of time, and generally just kept my wits about me.

I never felt any more “in danger” in Barcelona than in any other large city in Europe, and overall had a really great time there. I have many things left on my “next time” list.

Read more: Everybody Was Wrong About Barcelona

2. Venice, Italy

Gondolas at twilight in Venice
Gondolas at twilight in Venice

I visited Venice for the first time in the summer of 2013, and, just like with Barcelona, I expected to not really love it. Even back then, before the constant talk of “overtourism,” Venice was known for being pretty crowded and touristy – and I was also visiting in August, when it was hot and lots of places were closed as Italians went on their own summer vacations.

But despite all of that, Venice absolutely delighted me.

I loved all the old buildings and maze-like canals. I couldn't take enough photos of gondolas. And I discovered that the crowds weren't really as bad as I'd originally feared. I took my obligatory photos in St. Mark's Square and at the Rialto Bridge, and then promptly went wandering and found quieter streets and canals away from the tourist crush.

Rialto Bridge in Venice
A gondola at the Rialto Bridge

A second visit in 2019 confirmed what I'd concluded about Venice on my first trip: that I actually LOVE the city, and that it's actually pretty easy to avoid the crowds as long as you stay overnight and wander away from the most popular spots.

Venice is such a unique place, and even though it *is* quite touristy, I still highly recommend visiting.

Read more: Venice Survival Guide: Tips to Help You Love Your First Trip to Venice

3. Vietnam

Ha Long Bay in Vietnam
Ha Long Bay in Vietnam

Vietnam was the first country I visited in Southeast Asia. And while I didn't expect to *not* like it, I was surprised in the end by just how much I did like it.

I went to Vietnam in 2014 as a backpacker. And back then, Thailand was the firm favorite in terms of Southeast Asia backpacking destinations. Sure, other people liked Laos and Cambodia and were starting to talk about Bali… but Vietnam wasn't usually the first place recommended by backpackers headed to the region.

My love for Vietnam was definitely helped by the fact that I went on a tour, which ended up being a great introduction to Southeast Asia as a whole. We had a great guide with a love of his country that was totally infectious, and I came away loving Vietnam for its food, for its culture, for its cities, and for its people.

Street scene in Hoi An, Vietnam
Hoi An, Vietnam

And while a small part of me was maybe a little nervous at first to visit Vietnam as an American, I felt nothing but welcomed there. I now list Vietnam as my favorite place I've visited (so far) in Asia.

Read more: Traveling in Vietnam with Intrepid Travel

4. Puerto Rico

Street in Old San Juan, Puerto Rico
Colorful street in Old San Juan

When it comes to dreamy tropical vacations in the Caribbean, it's my guess that not a lot of people immediately think of Puerto Rico. And that's probably why I went to the island territory for the first time back in 2016 with fairly middling expectations. I didn't expect it would be a place that I would immediately put on my “must revisit” list as soon as I got home – but I did!

As a history nerd, Puerto Rico's unique historical story had me immediately hooked, as did its architecture, food, and of course beaches.

It took four years for me to return to Puerto Rico (this time with my husband Elliot in tow), but my second trip there was just as great as the first. It's also a trip I've been thinking back to a lot recently, since it was the last trip I took in 2020 in “The Before Times” before pandemic shutdowns.

Flamenco Beach on Culebra Island
Flamenco Beach on Culebra Island

Puerto Rico has had it rough in the last decade, with financial struggles, hurricanes, and now a pandemic decimating its tourism industry. Once it's safe to get back out there, I highly recommend considering a trip to Puerto Rico.

Read more: Thinking About a Caribbean Vacation? Think Puerto Rico or 5 Days in San Juan, Puerto Rico: The Perfect Caribbean Getaway

5. Warsaw, Poland

Warsaw Old Town
Warsaw Old Town

I spent three months traveling around Europe in the summer/fall of 2013. It was during the time when I was testing out being a “digital nomad” – and largely failing at it.

I headed to Poland towards the end of September, deciding to squeeze in a visit to the country before heading to a conference in Ireland, and then ultimately giving up on the whole nomadic thing and going home. By the time I got to Warsaw, I had virtually no money in my bank account, was burnt out from trying to work on the road, and didn't have any proper clothing for grey autumn days.

With all those things working against me, I should have been pretty miserable in Poland. But I actually found myself really loving Warsaw.

Park in Warsaw
It's hard to dislike a place with so many pretty green spaces!

This is likely mostly thanks to my friend Kami taking me in and showing me all of her favorite parts of Warsaw over the course of a few days. She took me to milk bars to eat pierogi, showed me around the Old Town, and even introduced me to a cool neon museum.

On my own, I also visited museums and parks and old cemeteries, and wound up naming Warsaw as one of my favorite European capital cities.

Read more: 7 Reasons Why Warsaw Is Awesome

6. European Christmas markets

Heidelberg Christmas market
Heidelberg Christmas market

For anyone who's ever been in Europe before the holidays, you'll look at this one and go “…well, duh!” Europe is known for its great Christmas markets, decorations, and traditions. And when I booked a December river cruise back in 2015 in order to visit some of those very markets, I had a feeling I would have no trouble enjoying it.

But now, more than five years later, that trip still remains one of my all-time favorites. Europe isn't just nice during the Christmas season; it's downright magical.

Cologne Christmas market
Cologne Christmas market

On that 2015 trip, I visited nearly a dozen Christmas markets across three different countries. In Cologne, Germany, I walked so much that the bottoms of my feet felt physically bruised. But it still ranks up there as one of my favorite trips ever.

Planning another Christmas market trip to Europe is very high up on my bucket list.

Read more: Christmas Markets with Viking River Cruises: What’s It Really Like? and 5 Things You Must Do at a German Christmas Market

7. Budapest, Hungary

Hungarian Parliament on the Danube
Hungarian Parliament on the Danube

Fun fact for you: Budapest was the first major city I ever visited in mainland Europe! That might sound crazy, but it's true! My very first trip to mainland Europe was a trip to Eastern Europe in 2012 that began in Budapest.

I was nervous on my way there, since I was traveling solo (still a relatively new thing for me back then!) and without knowing a whole lot of people who had been there. I had high hopes for Eastern Europe as a whole, but honestly didn't know what to expect from Budapest.

Amanda at Fisherman's Bastion in Budapest
Playing princess at Fisherman's Bastion

I of course ended up loving Budapest, though. I've since been back two additional times (in 2014 and again in 2019), and still list it as one of my favorite cities in Europe.

Budapest has all the old-world charm that you'd expect a big, grand European city to have, but is also quirky and not overly-polished. I've actually really enjoyed everywhere I've visited in Hungary, but Budapest remains a firm favorite.

Read more: 10 Things to Do in Budapest for the History Lover

8. Scottsdale, Arizona

McDowell Sonoran Preserve
McDowell Sonoran Preserve

I first visited Scottsdale, Arizona, back in the summer of 2019. It was the host destination of a small blogging workshop I was mentoring at, and to be honest I wasn't looking forward to going to the Arizona desert in June very much at all.

But, as it turns out, Scottsdale (a smaller city not far from Phoenix) is really, really cool. It's artsy and outdoorsy and filled with really amazing food. It has cool mid-century architecture everywhere, and the old “it's a dry heat!” adage really is accurate.

Scottsdale Andaz pool
All the pools in Scottsdale definitely help with the heat, too!

I was impressed enough by Scottsdale that I went back for a second time at the end of 2019, and Elliot and I are already talking about when we might be able to get back out there together in the future.

Read more: 7 Reasons You Should Put Scottsdale, Arizona on Your Must-Visit List and 3 Days in Scottsdale, Arizona: 3 Itineraries for 3 Different Types of Travelers

9. Slovenia

Lake Bled in Slovenia
Lake Bled in Slovenia

Unlike some of its neighbors like Italy and Switzerland and even Croatia, I feel like Slovenia isn't super well-known as a tourist destination. Which, honestly is a damn shame, because the entire country is so beautiful!

I had heard about how incredible Slovenia was a long time ago, and ended up adding it to my 2012 trip around Europe. I took the train from Croatia, and spent a few days each in Ljubljana and Bled. I did all the touristy things like visiting caves and taking a boat ride on Lake Bled and hiking in Triglav National Park – but very few spots felt overly touristy.

Soca River in Slovenia
I also went rafting on the Soča River, which really IS this color!

While I expected Slovenia to be pretty, its breathtaking beauty really left a lasting impression on me. The country as a whole reminded me a bit of New Zealand (one of my all-time favorite places in the world), and I feel like it's somehow managed to remain a bit of an underrated spot in Europe.

Going through all my Slovenia photos again makes me want to plan another trip right now!

Read more: Ljubljana: The City You Can’t Help But Love and An Adventure on the Emerald River

Biggest travel letdowns

Even though I know this part of the list is the *real* reason you clicked on this post (c'mon, we all know it's true), I need to be honest with you: my list of “letdowns” is shorter than my list of travel surprises!

This isn't because I'm some huge pessimist who always goes into travel with low expectations. Instead, it's because I've always been a “glass half full,” Pollyanna type of gal who can usually look past the bad experiences and focus on the overall positives instead.

Cathedral Cove in New Zealand
High winds cancel sea kayaking in New Zealand? Go on a hike instead!

Have I had travel plans ruined because of bad weather or poor planning or simple dumb luck? Of course. Have I been really upset to miss out on those things in the moment? You bet.

But, at the end of the day, I'm usually able to move past the bad luck and bad moods pretty quickly, either by shuffling a schedule around, or simply accepting that sometimes shit happens and there's nothing you can do about it.

The mantra I've adopted during these moments has been “Just accept it, and move on.”

Belize
In Belize, my camera died AND I had the flu. Still loved it, though.

But there HAVE definitely been some notable travel letdowns in my decade of traveling all around the world that I haven't been able to “move on” from. Not everyone will agree with all of these, but that's part of what's so interesting about travel: we all have our unique experiences that shape our opinions.

In the following cases, the positives never outweighed the negatives for me.

1. Amsterdam

Amsterdam canal

I've now visited Amsterdam 3 times over the span of 6 years. I've visited in all different seasons, stayed in all sorts of different places, and have done everything from bike tours to canal cruises to food tours to simply wandering around aimlessly.

And while I cannot deny that Amsterdam is a *gorgeous* city, it's one that I've just never really “clicked” with. There's nothing inherently wrong with Amsterdam, and I can't even say that I've had any bad experiences there. I've just never fallen in love with the city like so many others have.

My first visit to Amsterdam was as a budget-seeking backpacker in the summer of 2013, when I did all the touristy things with friends I'd met on a backpacker bus. I had a lot of FUN on that trip, but I didn't fall in love with Amsterdam as a city.

Amanda in Amsterdam
Amsterdam is beautiful; it's just not for me

I tried again in 2015 when I visited before Christmas with my mother-in-law before going on a river cruise. And I most recently went back with my sister in 2019 where we skipped the most touristy things and tried for a more laid-back visit.

My verdict is that while I don't mind visiting Amsterdam, I don't think the city will ever have the same pull on me that some other European cities do. I can't say why for sure; it just is what it is, and I've made peace with that.

Read more: Amsterdam: It’s Not You, It’s Me (a break-up letter to Amsterdam) and Giving Amsterdam a Second Chance

2. Cambodia

Bayon Temple in Angkor, Cambodia
Bayon Temple in Angkor

People always like to ask me about my favorite and least favorite destinations. And while I always stress that I don't “hate” any destination I've been to, I usually end up mentioning Cambodia as a country that was probably the most difficult for me to visit.

And I'm not talking difficult logistics-wise. I'm talking difficult in that it absolutely broke my heart.

There are a lot of incredible things to see in Cambodia (the Angkor temples probably being the most famous). But there's also a painful recent history to grapple with, along with a lot of corruption.

Killing Fields in Cambodia
Places like the Killing Fields are not pleasant to visit, but are important to understand Cambodia's recent history

I visited Cambodia in 2014, not long after graduating with my master's degree in tourism management. After taking courses in and writing papers on tourism development, it was hard to see the abject poverty and lack of sustainable development in Cambodia. It was even harder to travel there knowing that a lot of my tourism dollars were lining someone's pocket instead of actually helping the local people.

Don't get me wrong: I think learning about Cambodia's dark past is very important, and I enjoyed some parts of my Cambodia tour. But, overall, the country left me feeling a bit frustrated and sad.

Read more: Thoughts on Cambodia

3. Athens, Greece

Athens Acropolis
Athens Acropolis – it was easily 105 degrees this day.

History fan that I am, I was SO excited to visit Athens for the first time. I couldn't wait to see all the ruins, and to walk in the footsteps of ancient philosophers… But unfortunately there was just no magic spark between Athens and I.

Granted, I only visited for a few days on my first trip in 2012. And I was there in the height of summer during a heat wave, which made everything extra miserable (no joke, they closed the Acropolis while I was there because of the heat!).

View of Athens Acropolis
Even this view of the Acropolis from my hotel couldn't redeem Athens for me.

I was also traveling on a budget with other backpackers, so I'll admit that *maybe* that played a role in me not being particularly impressed. It's somewhere I might enjoy more with more time, and a healthier budget. But I can't say it's city I've prioritized returning to.

(I did, however, LOVE hopping around the Greek Islands on a separate trip a year later!)

4. Yellowstone National Park

Yellowstone Midway Geyser Basin
Incredible to see, but we did have to drive around for half an hour to find a parking spot.

Now I will preface this one by saying that I still think Yellowstone is an incredible place, definitely worthy of preservation.

I can understand why it was named the very first national park in the world. I mean, the geothermal activity! The wildlife! The dramatic landscapes!

BUT, Yellowstone has suffered in recent years from its own popularity. I visited in 2017 with my sister as part of a larger road trip out West. We had a few days to explore Yellowstone, but the immense size of the park coupled with how crowded it was in August left our whole visit feeling very rushed.

Grand Canyon of Yellowstone
Because we spent so much time driving/looking for parking, we never had much time to actually enjoy the incredible scenery!

I knew going in that I would need to temper my Yellowstone expectations a bit, especially since we were traveling during the high season. And I certainly didn't dislike the park. But waiting for parking spaces, getting caught in traffic jams, and spending more time driving in between attractions than enjoying them means that I wouldn't exactly name Yellowstone as my favorite national park.

This is a good reminder that timing can sometimes be everything. Would I have loved Yellowstone if I'd visited during a different, less busy season? It's very possible, and I'll have to test it out sometime!

Read more: Yellowstone National Park: What to Do and See in 2 Days

5. The Blue Mosque

The Blue Mosque in Istanbul

The last place on this list isn't a city or country; instead, it's one very popular attraction in Istanbul, Turkey. The Blue Mosque (officially the Sultan Ahmed Mosque) is a mosque constructed by the Ottomans in the early 1600s. It's still used as a functioning mosque – but is also a popular tourist attraction.

The Blue Mosque is known for its beautiful tile work, and I've actually visited it twice – once in 2012, and again in 2019. And while I can certainly appreciate the artistry and architecture here, I wouldn't call either of my visits to the Blue Mosque particularly enjoyable.

First of all, visiting an active religious site can always be a bit strange – especially when it's not your religion. It can feel a bit intrusive. Standing in line to go gawk at a mosque while some people were actually going inside to pray made me feel weird.

And it was also CROWDED on my first visit. I waited in line for half an hour, only to be shuttled through, elbow-to-elbow, as if I was at an amusement park. The COVID-era me shudders at this.

Inside the Blue Mosque
It's beautiful, sure, but it was SO CROWDED the first time I visited.

On my second trip, nearly the entire mosque was covered up with sheets and scaffolding, as restoration work has been ongoing for several years now. It wasn't nearly as busy, but obviously it's a lot less impressive when you can't see anything.

Overall, both of my trips to this wonder left me feeling pretty underwhelmed. There's so much incredible history and architecture in Istanbul to see that I don't know that I'll ever visit the Blue Mosque for a third time.

The Blue Mosque in Istanbul
I actually think it's more impressive from the outside anyway!

So there you have it: some of my most notable travel surprises and letdowns after 10 years of traveling the world.

This list could look different a few years from now – though I will say that the more I travel, the better I get at choosing destinations I'm likely to enjoy. I'm also much better at managing my own expectations these days, and being able to separate the “Instagram from reality” when I'm planning trips.

And now it's your turn! What are some of your travel surprises and letdowns? Do we have any that match up?

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  1. Yes, I’m loving this trend of Instagram vs reality. The realness speaks to me. I had absolutely the same experience at Angkor Wat. I couldn’t quite believe how many people were there at sunrise. Not the magical spot I had desired I love the list you have made about the destinations that have exceeded your expectations. I agree with so many of them. The best feeling I had was in early January 2020 when I stumbled on a Christmas market in Cologne. I couldn’t quite believe my luck. It was pure magic. The destination I visited that let me down was the 12 Apostles on the Great Ocean Road in Australia. Don’t get me wrong, overall it was AMAZING. But there was so many people taking photos and I couldn’t enjoy the place. Would you consider that circumstantial? It’s so interesting what can impact someone’s travel experience!

      It IS so interesting hearing what places other people love/didn’t like. And I think crowds can sometimes be circumstantial – but only if there’s an off-season when it’s quieter, or a way to enjoy the place without all the people. Sometimes your mood on the day can even make a difference – sometimes I don’t mind lots of people, and other times it ruins a place for me!

    I love Slovenia and Lake Bled. Not only was it beautiful, we found it cheap!
    I went on a day trip to Amsterdam once from England. It was a crazy busy day but I loved the canals and bridges.
    I think my biggest disappointment is actually Hollywood, especially the walk of fame area. We didn’t know who most of the ‘stars’ were. It was crazy busy and we couldn’t find anywhere to eat.
    My biggest surprise is Iceland. I didn’t expect it to be so pretty, friendly and safe.
    One place I probably wouldn’t make a return visit is Jamaica. Outside of the resort we felt harassed and not particularly safe.

      I think lots of people would probably agree on Hollywood – I’ve never understood how it became such a must-visit place, especially for international travelers! I’ve been to Los Angeles a couple of times, but have actually never been to that part of the city!

      And absolutely agreed on Iceland – I’ve been there three times, I like it so much!

    I’m like you, I generally am pretty good at seeing the positives in places I’ve visited, and there isn’t I place I’ve been to I’d completely avoid. That said I was a little underwhelmed by Ottawa (I’m Canadian and thought a visit to my country’s capital would be really interesting). I also lived in Dublin, Ireland for a bit and didn’t love the city (but would go back). That feeling might have been more from the frustrating things I went through while there (getting really sick, looking for work, moving several times). Now that I’m back in Canada I look forward to when I can visit Dublin again but as a traveller with less stress than when I lived there.

      You know, I kind of feel the same about Dublin! I really like Ireland, but Dublin doesn’t do a whole lot for me, even after several trips there. There are so many other parts of Ireland that I like better.

      Yes! I went to Dublin two years ago and it was not my favorite place to visit. Ireland is beautiful and I really want to go see more of it, but I don’t need to go back to Dublin.

    Great post, Amanda! So funny too because some of my experiences have been the complete opposite. For instance, Barcelona was way too “I’m about to be robbed” for me and I couldn’t get out of Venice fast enough (literally cut our trip short because we had such a horrible time).

    And Amsterdam was definitely a place I thought I wouldn’t like at all (only went because I got a great deal on plane tickets) but for me it did click and was SUCH a magical time! And the Blue Mosque was actually empty during my visit but the interior was under renovation and covered in scaffolding and tarps so that was also a super letdown.

    One place I didn’t expect to like all that much was Liechtenstein. Surprise, I absolutely LOVED it and can’t wait to get back. Travel really is such a personal experience!

      Yes! And this is what’s so great about travel – everyone has their own styles and experiences that shape their opinions about places. How boring would it be otherwise?? (And this is why I’ll always read posts like this, because I love reading about other peoples’ experiences!)

    I love this, this is always my favorite travel conversation to have with people. We all have our own experiences and it really shows how much traveling at the right time, with the right people, staying in the neighborhood that is the right fit, etc colors our perspective on a place. Then, sometimes a place just isn’t our thing regardless. I went to Venice during carnival so my experience was the total opposite of yours, and I did not quite feel the love lol. In Athens I stayed in a local neighborhood and made some really fun local friends and was just traveling there with one close friend, so that probably plays a huge part in why it is one of my favorite cities ever.

    My biggest let down was Puno, Peru and the Uros floating islands. I went because it was something that one of my friends really wanted to do in Peru so we added it to the itinerary (even though it’s a bit out of the way….long bus ride from Cusco then had to take a collectivo to Juliaca to fly out) and in the end she backed out of the trip haha. But it all felt very fake, was pretty unsanitary, got my worst food poisoning of the trip there. Good fish though (although all the food in Peru is amazing imo). I expected to like Iguazu Falls but I was surprised by just how much I loved it, I was ready to quit my life and move into the Brazilian side. Probably goes to show how much the crowd affected my perspective though, because I stayed at the hotel in the park so I had access before and after hours. So, I only went onto the trails when they were closed to the public. During the day I just did other things. I was also blown away by Porto, I could walk around that town until my feel fall off.

      Yes, I agree that it’s so interesting to hear about others’ experiences of place we either did/didn’t love ourselves. I think it’s great, though. If we all agreed on everything, it would be pretty boring to be a traveler (and travel blogger!).

      I agree with you on Porto – I also loved that city a lot!

    I agree with you about Amsterdam – we had a nice few days there but I didn’t fall in love with the city. But Cambodia I did really like. It helped maybe that we had an excellent guide in Phnom Penh and saw quite a bit of the city in addition to the Killing Fields and Tuol Sleng. The latter weren’t an easy visit but one I’m glad I made, and going there stimulated some interesting conversations with our guide about her parents’ experiences of living through that time. At no point did I feel that my tourist dollars weren’t supporting the businesses we engaged with – a locally-owned hotel, street food sellers, local coffee shops etc. Maybe I missed something there? And at Angkor Wat our guide took us to a different spot to watch the sunrise – it was just him and the two of us. Admittedly we didn’t get the reflections, but we went to the pools afterwards to grab a few of those shots and I was astounded to see the crowds just a short distance from where we’d been watching. Then most of them went to breakfast while we went straight into the ruins and for our first half hour there saw only three other visitors!

      There were parts of Cambodia I really enjoyed, too! But overall, after seeing all the poverty and hearing/reading about all the corruption that contributes to people staying impoverished, it just made me really sad. There ARE some great NGOs working in the country, and ways to support local businesses. But those local business are not likely to be keeping all of the money they make from tourists. When I went, for example, the Angkor Temples were managed by a company from Japan, so I guarantee the majority of the hefty entry fee I paid was sent out of the country. Cambodia is still, sadly, listed as one of the most corrupt countries in the world (and certainly in Asia). Not saying that means they don’t deserve tourism. But I do think it’s important to be aware of, and in my case it negatively affected my experience there.

    So nice to read something travel related! We went to Slovenia last summer and absolutely loved it. Although we went in high season, there were hardly any tourists, so we really got to enjoy Lake Bled, the Soca valley and everything else. But I had high expectations already, so it counts only as a half surprise. I love Budapest, on the other hand and that a surprise for me! I also relate to your feeling about Amsterdam – it’s nice, but I don’t feel like I need to go back. What I found really underwhelming is Prague – been there twice, but as you say, it just didn’t click. Another big letdown for me was Laos. I just found there were way too many tourists. But the list of places that I loved even more is much longer – Jordan, Iran and the Azores all took my heart.

      Yes, the list of places I love and would happily return to is much longer than the list of places I feel like I don’t need to see again! I was also a little underwhelmed by Prague on my first visit, but I know it’s because I visited during high season, and was also there as a backpacker. I definitely need to give a second chance!

    Great post. I think the bottom line is finding places to go that are not swarming with tourists. It really takes away from the whole experience regardless of where you are visiting. Yellow Stone was fun for us but we didn’t go in the summer and didn’t have to deal with major crowds. However, last August we went to Italy, now that’s a lot of people. We did Rome, the Amalfi Coast, Capri and Florence. I would love to go back to Capri but plan to stay overnight. I’ve been told the crowds leave at the end of the day and you can enjoy the island without the crowds.

    I would love to see more posts of places that are undiscovered, that’s more of where I’m at as of late. So any ideas you have would be welcomed.

      Staying overnight in popular tourist spots is almost always a great recipe for experiencing the quieter side of many places! As for more “undiscovered” spots, I’ve written about plenty of those, from Eastern Europe to Greenland to smaller cities in the US! I have 10 years worth of content on this site, so there’s a lot! Head to my Destinations page for an overview of where I’ve been: https://www.dangerous-business.com/destinations/

    Great post! It made me think about all my travel and what surprised me and let me down. I went to Italy a few years ago because I got a good deal on a trip but it was not anywhere near the top of my list of places to visit. What a delight it turned out to be! I went to Florence, Cinque Terra, Rimini, and Bologna and just loved it. The food, the history, the food, the beauty. I’d go back tomorrow if I could! I agree with your feelings on Amsterdam though. It turned out to be too much like Las Vegas, with lots of drunk people and crowds, and I didn’t enjoy it like I thought I would. Good museums though and I really liked the canals and the architecture, but overall just kind of meh. But The Hague is a whole different story. I loved it! And I made some trips from there (including a fun Christmas Market in Dordrecht) and really found the Netherlands lovely. Just not Amsterdam.

    I went on a driving trip through Utah a couple of years and found Bryce Canyon NP soooo packed full of people that some of the scenic overlooks were closed. Barriers and park rangers blocking the road so you couldn’t even get near them. I essentially ate lunch there, met some very nice German visitors who I shared a picnic table (and some of my homegrown tomatoes) with and left. And I think it was so disappointing because I had just left Capitol Reef and Grand Staircase/Escalante NPs which are stunning, breathtaking, and devoid of people and I was so excited to keep that going. I’m not sure I’ll try going back to Bryce, I saw hoodoos outside of it and there’s so much more to see in the other NPs that it’s just not necessary.

      Oh Bologna… one of the most delicious destinations in the world! And I think when it comes to national parks, running into huge crowds like that really make it hard to fully appreciate them. It was the same for me at Yellowstone. Luckily though I’ve visited all of Utah’s parks either in the winter or spring, and those seem to be much quieter times overall!

    Hi Amanda,

    I’m glad to hear you’re traveling again and congrats on the new US administration (my husband and I met you on a walking tour in Vilnius back in 2016)!

    Great piece. Let me start by saying that I’ve never had a bad trip. I mean, I’ve certainly have enjoyed some places more than others and there have been occasional disappointments. But I’ve taken away something good from just about everywhere I’ve been.

    Like you, Venice really exceeded our expectations. We went off season (late November) so no cruise ships to deal with and stayed in the city so we could enjoy getting lost every evening. And I also think Budapest and Vietnam (I far preferred it to the more popularThailand) exceeded my expectations. And, also like you, I’ve continually found Amsterdam to a modest disappointment. I’ve been twice and it’s just not one of my favorite European cities (though I’d certainly head back again – especially a year of virtual lockdown).

    Here’s a few I’d personally add.

    Exceeded expectations:

    Galicia (specifically Santiago de Compostela). Not that I was expecting to be disappointed but I didn’t realize how much I’d enjoy this Gothic, Celtic, rainy corner of Spain. And definitely the best seafood I’ve had anywhere in Europe. And all at the fraction of the cost of say Barcelona.

    Dresden. It’s one of the great cities of Central Europe (Berlin, Budapest, Vienna, Prague) but it doesn’t get nearly as much hype (admittedly the continued threat far right politics in the region doesn’t help). But I think Dresden is really beautiful in its reconstructed historical quarter but also hip and interesting elsewhere. Fantastic museums and many affordable cultural opportunities. And obviously very accessible from Berlin and Prague.

    Mild Disappointments:

    Florence. It’s obviously of enormous cultural and historical importance and it’s a beautiful city. But the crowds were overwhelming even when we visited in shoulder season. In particular, the Uffizi Gallery was probably the most unpleasant museum experience I’ve had anywhere in Europe – and we had pre-paid tickets and such. That said, you can’t go wrong in Tuscany and nearby Pisa was a delight, even after hours.

    Prague. I like Prague. I just don’t like Prague as much as Vienna or Budapest. It’s a beautiful, gem box of a city but it feels really Disneyfied and cold. And like previously mentioned Amsterdam, it’s just not one of my favorite European cities. But also like Amsterdam, I’d go there in a heartbeat if the opportunity arose.

      You know, I almost added Vilnius to this list, too! I was surprised how much I enjoyed it, seeing as how I just kind of added in on to a larger trip since I had some time to kill before heading to Russia. It ended up being super interesting, despite the weather being a bit cold and wet at that time of year. As for your list, I’d agree on Prague; I’ve only been once and would certainly go again, but I immediately fell in love with other big historical cities like Budapest on my first visit, while Prague was just okay for me.

    Really good info in your tops and lows, I concur with several I’d rank the same. Keep up the good work, and thanks for sharing your travel insights.

    For me a big letdown was Vienna: such a beautiful city, but anyone who doesn’t speak german is just treated so bad compared to the mothertongue, i first notice it on my first night at the Opera House, even in a place like that the difference was so clear, and is not a matter of being a tourist, because all fine with German tourist, but as they hear an accent the manners completely changed and made me feel so weird.

      That’s interesting! Other people have said Vienna, too, though I can’t say I’ve had any bad experiences there myself.

    Wow! Quite a lot of direct hits in this blog! I loved Barcelona. We were there four nights and I could have stayed so much longer. Delicious food, wonderful walking, friendly people. The only downside are those pesky scooters! I have not been to Slovenia but it is on my list. The same with Hungary. We’ve been to Romania twice and fell in love with it. So I hope it provides that ability to see the rural charm away from the capitol. For Istanbul, I have to say I loved the Blue Mosque. I know it was a long wait and crowded. However, it was so beautiful inside. Light and airy as opposed to the Hagia Sophia which is so dark. And while I was discussing the history and some points on Islam a group smiled and joined in on our discussion. They showed so much appreciation for me having some rudimentary knowledge of their religion and the ability to add to it was endearing.

    Many of the others I have not been to yet but am building that travel fund during these restricted times. Western Europe has its charms but I really want to see more of Central and Eastern Europe. As for Asia? Perhaps a trip to Japan? Be still my heart!

    Wonderful blog. Thanks so much for sharing.

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