This week's guest post come from Scott Hartbeck of Worldwide Scott. Scott is a travel addict trying to make up for lost time. When he’s not dreaming about the St. Louis Blues winning the Stanley Cup, trips to New Orleans, or his next bloody mary, he is dreaming up ideas for backpacking T-shirts and planning his 2012 RTW adventure.
Travel: The Ultimate Dating Deal Breaker
Dating deal breakers. We all have them, right? For those not familiar with the term, deal breakers are those issues and priorities that you simply cannot budge on in terms of your search for that special someone. My own unscientific research shows me the most common and seemingly most important deal breakers concern wanting children, religious beliefs, financial strategies, and political leanings.
For example, if you are all about a family and the person you are casually dating is a “no kids” kind of girl or guy, then that deal breaker will be putting an end to things sooner rather than later. Can you have fun for a while? Absolutely you can. Deep down though, you know the relationship will never get off the runway.
As a single guy who has been proudly bitten by the travel bug, I have stumbled into a new type of deal breaker I am guessing is not uncommon to the fellow travel addicted: the traveling deal breaker.
In addition to the criteria listed above, I have found that finding someone who is on the same page of travel passion is an absolute must and may possibly be more important then the others combined. Travel compatibility is huge! Do you daydream about seeing the world? Do the stories of exotic locales get your heart racing? Are travel shows “must-see TV”?
If yes, that is an amazing start, but, like finishing first on the initial leg of The Amazing Race, it is only that — a start on a multi-legged journey. It is the dedication to making those travel dreams reality that becomes the crux of the matter. It seems that a lot of people love to talk about how much they love to travel, but are more than willing to cast plans aside if need be and then be content with it.
This is the true deal breaker for the travel lover.
Sadly to the previous point, I have personally found the phrase “I love to travel” to be one of the most overused phrases in the dating world, and in life in general for that matter. Just click an online profile or ask a single at a bar what they like to do in their spare time, and I‘ll bet you that travel will almost always be listed as a first or second response.
Obviously at first listen, this strikes a chord to the dating traveler and may even get dreams of a double hostel room dancing in your head. But, If you are not on the same guide book page as far as making things actually happen and working towards those goals, much like the decision to have children, things are not going to get cleared for takeoff.
Now I will leave the “Can a Lonely Planet Girl Date a Let’s Go Guy?”, “Will a Hotel Girl and a Hostel Guy Last?”, and “Can a Flashpacker and Backpacker Find True Love?” blogs for another time or place. I just know that if you do not have travel as one of top priorities in what you want out of life and are not working towards achieving your travel goals, you won’t be a match for a real travel lover and it is time for that to be taken as seriously as other deal breakers are.
So, is travel a real deal breaker? Obviously I sure think it is. What do you think?